A girl in my Sociology class turns around during a class activity on goals to start a conversation with me. Her opening line is: ‘I want to get married.’ I nod and smile. She does not ask me my goals, just continues telling me the sort of guy she’d like to be with and how many kids she’d like. Thoughtfully, she adds, ‘My mom told me to meet someone and marry them. You don’t wanna date around because you wanna be fresh for the guy and not a….you know what.’

My cousin’s Facebook ‘About Me’ lists things she would like in a man. There is nothing about her or the things she does, only qualities she finds attractive. ‘Looking for someone who can play the guitar and cook a great dinner,’ she wrote. I can hear her bubbly, singsong voice while reading it. She is thirteen years old and has told me that girls ‘oughta only kiss their husbands and that’s it.’ When I ask her what she wants to be when she’s older she says, ‘Married.’

My male friend tells me that he has no problem with what girls do, but that he would not date a girl who’s ‘been around’ because she’d be ‘dirty.’ I wonder if each time someone touches you, a part of you is soiled. If there are piles of dirt in the spaces where others’ fingers once rested. In the shower, I try to scrub the smell of dirt from myself, but come out, still polluted, with red scratch marks all over me.

Being called a ‘you know what’ taught me some things: that I do not want to be touched by somebody who will judge my past. That I am not a tally book, with others’ names burned into me. If you have to label me as something, let it be a human being.

A “You Know What” | Lora Mathis 
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No explanation needed.

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Got my attention.

Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson is HERCULES! See it in theaters July 25th. 

Got my attention.


Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson is HERCULES! See it in theaters July 25th. 

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The Dragon - Aleksandr Mushkin

Come to Mama!

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  • dudes: "all men watch porn just get used to it"
  • dudes: "men just have stronger sex drives than women, its just biology"
  • dudes: "we can't help objectifying women, its in our dna"
  • feminists: "rape happens a lot in our society and most are perpetrated by men, towards women, and i can't tell the difference between safe men and dangerous men just by looking so i tend to be wary of men sometimes"
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Took my niece and nephew to have their pictures taken in their traditional Ethiopian clothing. Turned out too cute not to share. :)


who is this tiny goddess and which realm does she rule  D: D: D:  So beautiful!!!

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